Counselling is a one-to-one relationship, where the client and the counsellor meet to talk in confidence. Shetland Bereavement Support Service believes it is important to offer a safe environment, and a confidential and helpful partnership, in which the client can explore his or her feelings about what has happened.
"..being able to actually tell someone how you were actually feeling was a huge thing for me.."
We believe the client is the “expert” on his or her own life, and that, by using the counselling relationship to explore how he or she feels following the death, the client can move forward. That is not about forgetting the person who has died, but about finding a new way of living with the memories. Each person is different, and so will react in a different way to the death which has brought them to counselling. Some people simply find that the chance to talk to someone “outside” the family and to have time for themselves in which to concentrate on their own feelings of grief is sufficient. For others, there may be feelings of anger or guilt, or some ambivalence in the relationship. Or there may be confusion as to why a death has occurred, or some difficulty in “making sense” of the death. These feelings may take longer to explore. Sometimes people find that in facing one death, they are reminded of previous losses, and they may wish to talk about these also.